If you had a divorce, will you marry again?
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#1 If you had a divorce, will you marry again?
Well I don't think there's a lot of LA members who ever had a divorce, so I guess this is a hypothetical question for most of us. Suppose you had a divorce before, would you take a second chance and get married again? I know it should be judged on case-by-case basis, but in general, are you interested to get married again or not?
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Yeah. Learn from the mistakes and move on. I sure as hell wouldn't give up a golden chance, even if I got burned in the past. That would just be silly.
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Ask me again if I ever get a divorce.
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Ask me again if I ever get married.
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frigidmagi wrote:Ask me again if I ever get a divorce.
Well, that's why this is a hypothetical question.Batman wrote:Ask me again if I ever get married.
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Impossible to realistically answer until you go through it.
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Speaking in the hypothetical, if given the opportunity to marry in the first place... and if I ended up divorcing... ideally I would like to say yes, but realistically I have to say no.
There are several reasons for this. The first is that it is very difficult for me to actually get attached enough to a person to want to marry them. And considering past experiences I dont foresee it getting any easier, in fact it will probably get harder in order that I do not get emotionally damaged. So if that does happen, the likelihood that someone will once again wish to marry me and I am comfortable trusting someone after being hurt that badly the first time around, is low.
The second reason is that once I get attached to someone, it sticks. And it sticks hard. The same thing that makes me one of the best and most loyal friends anyone can ever have, kills me when I get hurt. And if something doesnt work, the amount of time it takes me to get over it and move on is proportional to the time the relationship lasted. So if I was married for ten years... dear god... I cant even ponder how nasty the 'healing' process would be. Especially because I refuse to use uglification techniques to convince myself to hate the person...
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There are several reasons for this. The first is that it is very difficult for me to actually get attached enough to a person to want to marry them. And considering past experiences I dont foresee it getting any easier, in fact it will probably get harder in order that I do not get emotionally damaged. So if that does happen, the likelihood that someone will once again wish to marry me and I am comfortable trusting someone after being hurt that badly the first time around, is low.
The second reason is that once I get attached to someone, it sticks. And it sticks hard. The same thing that makes me one of the best and most loyal friends anyone can ever have, kills me when I get hurt. And if something doesnt work, the amount of time it takes me to get over it and move on is proportional to the time the relationship lasted. So if I was married for ten years... dear god... I cant even ponder how nasty the 'healing' process would be. Especially because I refuse to use uglification techniques to convince myself to hate the person...
and my rant is done
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No.
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If he should be called to duty I will wait for him standing tall, for he is my soldier, my hero, after all.
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Frankly, I've never been married, and the closest thing to marriage I've ever experienced is the domestic partnership with the woman I really fell in love with. The relationship ended around mid-2004. It's a damn long story, but suffice to say that it has totally killed my interest in any committed relationship whatsoever. No. Non. Nein. Nada. Fuck no.
So if I've ever been married and got divorced, then my interest of getting married again is equal to zero. There's an old saying, 'never fall into the same hole twice'.
So if I've ever been married and got divorced, then my interest of getting married again is equal to zero. There's an old saying, 'never fall into the same hole twice'.
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I'd sort of like to think I would, but if I got involved enough with someone to actually marry them, and we broke up, I think I would be bitter and uninterested in relationships for a very, very long time. I suppose a few years might be enough time to get over it if I got therapy for a while afterward. But by the time I moved on, I'd probably be pretty used to being single again, to the point where I might not feel the loneliness so much and therefore I wouldn't need another relationship.
In other words, I don't know.
In other words, I don't know.
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As I partly owe my existance to a divorce and later a remarriage (that convoluted story of how my parents met and ended up with me is even more convoluted than I've said before - on a side note, I don't expect there to be many other versions of me in parallel universes) I'd be a hypocrite to go against it.
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Well, I became somewhat bitter after two relationships going more or less the the same way, so I became celibate for a few years until I figured some things out.
Now I'm about ready to start dating again, but I'm likely one of the world's least talented mack-daddies.
Now I'm about ready to start dating again, but I'm likely one of the world's least talented mack-daddies.
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I say the same thing about myself. But you never know who will change their minds about you...rhoenix wrote:Well, I became somewhat bitter after two relationships going more or less the the same way, so I became celibate for a few years until I figured some things out.
Now I'm about ready to start dating again, but I'm likely one of the world's least talented mack-daddies.
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*shrug*B4UTRUST wrote:I say the same thing about myself. But you never know who will change their minds about you...
There is that, but whatever will happen, will happen. Until then, I'm going to chase my own happiness - call it making up for lost time.
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Not this time.
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